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Yesterday I went to the dentist for the first time since Covid-19 started. There were numerous precautions in my dental office other than the copious PPE worn by the staff: my temperature was checked at the door,  and my blood pressure was taken in the dental chair. I wore googles and rinsed my mouth with some minty potion before starting.

I had a new hygienist—let’s call her Carrie. Carrie was a no-nonsense hygienist. The first download.jpgthing she said to me, when I opened my mouth was, “Wow–you have a lot of gum recession.” I told her about my dental hygiene routine: brushing with an electric toothbrush, using a waterpik, and then quickly flossing. Carrie commented, “Yes, I can see that you’re a quick flosser.” Within 2 minutes I felt as if I had accumulated two demerits. There were more comments like this along the way.  With a lot of self control, I suppressed a giant eye-roll.

Carrie wanted me to change some of my brushing behavior. I can tell you with certainty that I would have been much more open to her suggestions if she merely started with a positive.  She could have pointed out that it’s great that I religiously come every 6 months–even in a pandemic, that I have an established routine every night, that I have healthy, pink gum tissue, or that I have low blood pressure and a low pulse—ANYTHING. The dentist, instead, thought I was doing very well. I left the office knowing that I will NOT see her again.

Starting with the positive leaves people open to what they need to work on. In this pandemic, many of my clients have been eating too many treats or drinking too much. I would love them to tweak some of their behaviors. I tackle this by first reminding them of what they’re doing right: Some are exercising more. Some are cooking more. Some are eating healthy food along with the not-so-healthy food. I feel a shift when I do this—they ease up on their self-deprecation and become more open. To me, this is the best and only way to approach a difficult process.

In this pandemic, we need to hear some positive news and embrace it! I will cling onto my dentist’s message: “Rhonda, you’re doing just great!”




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My husband and I are very close friends with another couple, Julie and Jeremy.  The beauty about the four of us is that we accept and embrace the good, the bad,  and everything in between. Yes, we often make fun of each other.

I get poked fun at for my undying, over-the-top enthusiasm, which can be annoying. Once, the four of us were talking about whether or not we were morning people. I told them that not only was I a morning person,  but that when my eyes open in the morning, the first thing I think is, “HELLO DAY!”.  I’m sure you can imagine how that went over. 🙄

When the coronavirus came, my days of waking up thinking “HELLO DAY”, were over. I thought many things but NOT that.  It was more like,  “FU DAY”, “ARE YOU KIDDING ME, DAY?” or, “WTF, DAY!”  I missed that part of myself. I yearned to be made fun of for my excessive enthusiasm.

Julie is a jewelry designer. Prior to meeting Julie, I didn’t care much about jewelry one way or the other. Now, I want to buy all of her stuff! She is extremely creative and talented. (SHAME-FREE PLUG: I make fun of Julie’s creativity because it’s everywhere! The way she sets her table, the way her room is lit, the way  she cooks food and how it is presented on a platter. I’ve never seen anything quite like it.

Last night, we celebrated my birthday. Julie knew not to bake a cake for me so, instead, she created a masterpiece out of vegetables. A landscape of grass,  flowers, puffy clouds and a bright sun. She brought it to me saying, “I call this, “HELLO DAY!”  My heart soared. I was beyond delighted.IMG_5095

Last night I must have fallen asleep with a smile on my face. Guess what happened when I woke up this morning? For the first time since the coronavirus descended upon us, I said….

NEVER MIND……..I’m not saying it because it will be too annoying!  🙄 😂

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As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, I am an extremely routine-oriented person. The good news is that this means I have a lot of discipline; the bad news is that this means I’m not a huge fan of change. So, when the coronavirus came, it knocked me off my feet until I equilibrated to the new normal. My new normal included virtual training, nutritional counseling on the phone and yes, coloring my own hair for the first time.

In my pre-covid life, I found going to the salon to be too time consuming, which annoyed me. However, after a few rounds of boxed hair color, I started YEARNING to step foot into my local hair salon. Here in New York, we are opening up in phases so the minute phase 2 began, giving salons permission to open, I was ready!

Yesterday, armed with a mask and hand sanitizer, I got my hair professional colored. I 61358733133__39FF3EEF-DE56-4E8D-8B96-BF9281D9A345found the experience to be sublime. I was shocked at how luxurious this all seemed to me given that I’ve been coloring my hair for decades. In previous trips to the salon, there was always a hidden eye roll. Yesterday, I was exploding with pure, unadulterated, glee.

As we slowly and carefully re-open, I hope to continue to bask in all the experiences that I have so taken for granted. I’m sure you will, too!


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As I’m adjusting to this new normal, it’s hard to believe what I’m now feeling ECSTATIC about.

The other day I visited my local mini mart, which has been stocked, surprisingly, with gettyimages-502997738-612x612wonderful staples. As I went to reach for the thin, non-absorbent paper towels, I looked up and saw (HOLD ON), a two-pack of BOUNTY. BOUNTY PAPER TOWELS!  REAL PAPER TOWELS!  It seemed like a mirage. I swear, when I reached up for them, I heard the music from “Rocky” buzzing in my ears.

My local super market started implementing social distancing from the onset of this pandemic. Every time I went to the store, I had wait on a long line, and shop in a store with empty shelves and panicked faces. It was so depressing. I hated the experience so much that I started going every 3 weeks and doing a giant shop. Recently, the supermarket started  posting shopping times on (HOLD ON) Open Table. Now, I simply sign onto Open Table, book my shopping time, and off I go. When I get to the store, even if there is a line, I get to go right in.  Cue in “Rocky”.

I called my podiatrist yesterday. My foot has been bothering me and I wanted to make a telehealth appointment. Vanessa, the receptionist, told me that the doctor was also taking (HOLD ON) regular appointments. REGULAR APPOINTMENTS?? You mean the kind of appointment where I can SEE the doctor IN PERSON??? ECSTATIC.

If anyone had told me three months ago that I would feel this passionately about Bounty paper towels, shopping at my local supermarket through Open Table, or seeing my podiatrist, I would have told them that they needed serious help.

Oh, this  new normal!



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As many of you know, this epidemic is making us feel like we’re on a giant roller coaster. For me, when this first hit I felt all over the place—anxious, moody and exhausted. My friend sent me a link to zoom—she told me that I could start training people virtually. Training virtually?  Zoom? NO THANK YOU!  Virtual training was NOT or me! A week later, I was training my clients virtually.

Virtual training is fine. It is far from ideal but it keeps us connected and my clients maintain some level of fitness. In the process, I’ve learned  how to be more creative. Often times people have no equipment—I still want them to have a good workout so I had to figure that out.   When there is equipment, I worry about injury, so I’ve learned how to accurately describe the right way to pick up weights.   It’s a lot more work but worth it.

As things have improved here in NY, on Monday, I started seeing a few people outside, on my patio. I moved some equipment  into the sunshine. My table was filled with hand sanitizer, Clorox wipes, sunscreen and water. When I got too close, I put on my mask. To protect my boxed-colored hair and face, I wore sunglasses and my signature red, floppy hat. One of my clients laughed so hard at this getup. She said that I looked like a stylish bank robber.

I was overcome with joy seeing people face to face. What I missed so much was the little nuances that I can’t see on zoom. I was able to accurately assess when something wasn’t right, or when I needed to tweak an exercise. It was sublime.

I was one VERY happy,  stylish bank robber!



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